Couples having daily sex have been making the news quite a bit lately. First there were the books detailing the efforts and experiences of 2 married couples to have sex daily for 100 days straight and 365 days.
Then a pastor in Texas challenged the married couples in his congregation to be intimate every night for a week. The follow week he encouraged the couples to keep going for another week.
His challenge for married couples to have sex everyday for a week created quite a stir in both the religious community and from family therapists saying it’s not that simple just to tell couples to go have sex every day.
Obviously if a couple is having major problems they should seek qualified help, but many times marital problems stem from the couple becoming disconnected from one another because of the stresses of work and raising a family.
Many times intimacy both physical and emotional gets left out of the daily routine. Making sex a priority, as in making sex a daily commitment, lets intimacy be re-introduced and recommitted to into the relationship.
Just as daily prayer and scripture reading or devotionals might be used by Christians to keep God in their daily lives, daily sex can be used to help keep married couples connected both physically and emotionally.
Not only does the New Testament tell married couples not to “deprive” one another and “The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband…Do not deprive each other…” (1Corinthians 7:1-5), the Old Testament says that a man should “leave his father and his mother and be united to his wife and they will become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24).
In Judaism regular sexual union in marriage is also advocated. One of the joys of the Sabbath and part of making it a special day includes sexual joy with one’s spouse. One of the first commandments given to man after his creation was for him to have sex: “And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth…” (Genesis 1:28).
Daily sex is not a cure all for the challenges of marriage, but it can add to the glue that keeps a marriage happy. In interviews with couples that have accepted a daily sex challenge an interesting pattern was observed. In nearly all cases it was the woman who made the daily sex happen.
The wife’s willing attitude to have sex daily was perhaps the most important ingredient for the success of the commitment. Second was her physical availability and involvement in encouraging activity. Both husband and wife made efforts and sacrifices to make it happen each day. After that things just seemed to flow and intimacy both physical and emotional increased to levels that surprised the couples.
A big concern of women is the fear of not being in the mood and physically responsive for sex daily. The more sexually fit the women were the easier it is for them to “instantly” get in the mood and truly enjoy the experience. The fastest way for women to get sexually fit is through diet changes and pelvic exercise.